I have the A20 and the ProFlight 2 and just like your wife my adult kids are not fond of them as well.
The A20 set I have used and not been bothered by the tension of the head band, but I always return to my old light speed Mach 1's
https://www.lightspeedaviation.com/product/mach-1/Sadly they have been discontinued. I have them with custom ear molds that light speed provided when they were being marketed. For long legs I have always found them to be "not there" as not sensing them at all unlike the Bose that I am adjusting throughout the flight.
If the A20 set is bothering your wife, I do not think that the ProFlights will be any better as they have about the same tension in the headband.
Maybe you can find one of the Mach 1 or contact Lightspeed to see if they might have one in a storage room left.